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June 23 2015

gaysobstory:

bi-unicorns:

Destroy gender roles, not gender identity 

THIS. THIS IS IT. THIS IS WHAT PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND.

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June 14 2015

thatsridicarus

May 28 2015

The untold rule about blurting out someone's appearance flaw

chantelbrenna:

burdenedwithglorioushiddleston:

totallyfubar:

Here’s the rule about telling someone about something wrong with their appearance:

If a person can fix it in 5 minutes or less, tell them

If they can’t…

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That’s actually a really good way of putting it.



This is a good rule. Spinach in their teeth? A flyaway hair? Stain on their shirt? Yeah, tell ‘em.

You think they’re overweight? You don’t like their hair color? You think they’re wearing too much makeup? Shut up.

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May 15 2015

thatsridicarus

myhappynessisthis:

stevemt:

erynlou:

cutting ties

it was about damn time.

Know what my favorite part of this is? That one only has ties on a small part of their body whereas the other is tied all along one side up to the face, meaning one person is not quite as invested in the relationship as the other. Even better thought, the one with most ties is the one with the scissors. Im so glad they’ve built up the courage to leave even if it means cutting out a larger part out of their life than the other.

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May 08 2015

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thisisperfectlyridiculous:

tbh the biggest difference from pre-hiatus to post-hiatus is that some blessed soul finally forced them to hire a stylist

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April 21 2015

Fall Out Boy: we're releasing a song/video/etc. tomorrow!
Fall Out Boy: *waits until three pm to release it and keeps everyone on edge all day*

Panic! at the Disco: we're releasing a song tomorrow!
Panic! at the Disco: *releases it at like ten pm the night before*

March 25 2015

thatsridicarus
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varied-colours:

theweetosdoesart:

Love from afar

OH MY GOD.

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March 01 2015

Just a simple PSA

mikotoawase:

parenyzia:

kankripeixes:

cant-ride-a-quesadilla:

Cannon = thing that goes boom

Canon = an event that occurs within a published story

they both destroy ships tho

Did you just

Well played.

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February 14 2015

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arterialbites:

Gee Way, better known as the beautiful tiny muffin boy

(Not my tweet)

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January 31 2015

thatsridicarus

January 27 2015

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ask.fm
It's just like explained in Danisnotonfire's video
Iri - Bening Envy (typical, normal, just plain wanting what other people has)
Hasad - Malign Envy (not-so-typical, wanting other people to suffer & lose the things they have that we want)

and of course Cemburu = Jealousy which isnt part of this context

personasanta:

does anybody else think tired and sleepy mean two totally different things

despairnaegami:

sleepy is cute and dozing off and happy but tired is 10 cups of coffee and murder

artkat:

image

staxilicious:

reposting because the last graphic comment is FLAWLESS

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December 06 2014

thatsridicarus
there’s a difference between talking back and defending myself thank you
roselastrider (via legalwifi)
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November 22 2014

thatsridicarus
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pokemonmasterkimba:

Somebody kill me

Each Jenny has a different symbol on their hat

And I don’t know which one to do for my cosplay…

atopfourthwall:

…Holy crap, how did I never notice this before?

darkpuck:

So THAT’S how Brock knows!

pokemonmasterkimba:

All the Joy’s are different, too. Their crosses are each different colors.

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#I thought the Nurse Joy one only happened recently though #like in the new seasons

Nope. While blue and pink repeated a few times, generally each Joy had a different color city to city.

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These are all from season 1 & 2 Nurse Joys.

miloucomehome:

Oh good god.

theonetruenators:

holy fucking shit how did no one else notice this it’s been like tEN FUCKING YEARS

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November 13 2014

thatsridicarus

THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN

the-social-recluse:

THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN

  • finding someone aesthetically pleasing
  • being sexually attracted to someone
  • being romantically attracted to someone

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November 10 2014

thatsridicarus
Synonyms are weird because if you invite someone to your cottage in the forest that just sounds nice and cozy, but if I invite you to my cabin in the woods you’re going to die.
malkiewicz
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November 06 2014

thatsridicarus
life is so hard when your best pal is a 9.5/10 and you’re a strong 4 with the right filter and lighting
kingsleyyy
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DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BRITABOOS AND ANGLOPHILES AND SUCH OTHERS

britaboostories:

This will cover my views on what the differences are between Weeaboos and Anglophiles/Japanophiles are, because believe it or not, THERE IS A DIFFERENCE.

Let’s break down the definitions of four words now: (remember there is difference between culture and pop-culture)

Japanophile - A foreign person who embraces Japanese culture. Culture ranges from its animation to its music to its literature to its history to its film. They tolerate and understand other nations, but they hold Japan to be their favorite country or have actual educated reasons why Japan is the best country.

Weeaboo -A foreign person who loves Japan only for its anime, manga, music (mostly featured in anime openings/endings), and video games (in other words, their modern day pop culture in general). They also tend to be hold Japan highest in regards to other nations because of their culture, and bash anything that isn’t Japanese for not being Japanese (in fact, I think they would find Japanese culture and history and customs to be boring). Female weeaboos love Japanese men and hold them greater than their own men. They want to live in Japan for its anime and junk only.

Anglophile - A foreign person who loves the United Kingdom for its culture and history and embraces it. They like everything from its literature to its history to its modern media. They also respect other nationalities while holding the UK to be their favorite nation (and have some actual reasons to claim why the UK is the greatest nation).

Britaboo/Angloboo/Britboo - A foreign person who only likes England for its pop-culture. Just like a weeaboo, they only obsess over British TV shows and other pop-culture things. They probably don’t care much for its rich history and classic literature as well. Also, female Britboos hold British men over their own men. They want to live in England for the pop-culture only. 

If you noticed this, there are two pairs of words that share the same suffix: -boo and -phile. This is where we get down to my views. A -boo is one who only loves a country for its pop-culture and is driven to the point of unhealthy obsession. A -phile has a healthy liking for the country because of its history, sites, and culture.

There are other types of -philes out there, such as Sinophiles (lovers of China), Francophiles (lovers of France), Koreaphiles (lovers of Korea), and in countries outside America, we have Americanophiles. But there may be those obsessed with those nations to the point of being blind to other nations. One other big example is a Koreaboo (who swoons over K-Pop to unhealthy levels).

Hopefully this clears up to you what the difference is to these words, and I hope you guys don’t abuse Japanophile or Anglophile as a negative slur against those who may not be Weeaboos or Britaboos.

November 03 2014

Being 5 yrs old with a baby sibling: "I'm a big sister!"
Being a teenager/twenteenager with a friend who has a 5yo & an infant: "How could you have a baby while STILL having another baby?"

You dont feel age difference anymore as the years go.

October 30 2014

thatsridicarus

On autochorissexualism, akiosexuality and lesser-known gray-ace identities

hunterinabrowncoat:

As I want this post to be comprehensive, to start discussions, and to be a resource to anybody who wants to use it, I feel the best place to start is probably definitions of these terms:

  • Asexual - a person who does not experience sexual attraction
  • Allosexual - a person who does experience sexual attraction
  • Grey-asexual - a person who fits somewhere inbetween the two (to my understanding, just like the term ‘queer’, grey-ace is a blanket term in this sense; describing all the bits inbetween ace and allo, but is also used by some as a valid identity in its own right, to describe someone who experiences sexual attraction only very rarely).
  • Akiosexual / Lithsexual - these two words mean the same thing; that a person feels sexual attraction, but has no desire for reciprocation. The prefix ‘lith’ was originally coined, but there were concerns about appropriation, so many people use ‘akio’ instead. They’re two words for the same thing.
  • Autochorissexual - a person experiences a disconnect between themselves and what they’re desiring. So they might enjoy erotica or porn, but feel no desire to participate in the activities they’re fantasizing about.

I’m aware that there are many other sexualities that exist in the shaded areas between asexuality and allosexuality, and that there are corollary romantic orientations for all the shades of grey aromantics, however, I don’t feel I have any authority to speak about these when I’m still trying to get all the knowledge straight in my head, and feel secure in my own identity. So…

Why are these labels important?

The first words that seem to come out of everybody’s mouth upon hearing these kinds of labels are “that’s not a thing”, which more than anything, just make me sad. As I’ve said before, these identities are a real and valid thing because we made them so. People who felt this way already existed, we just gave them a name. And a large part of the reason I’m making this post is because so often, somebody will reblog one of my posts about autochorissexuality with comments like “omg there’s a word for me!” and “I thought I was just a really bad asexual!” and similar.

If you yourself are queer and/or ace and/or aro, I’m sure you’ve experienced the whole Harry Potter ‘yer a wizard Harry!’ moment, where you find a word that explains all these feelings you’ve had and suddenly everything seems so much better because there’s other people just like you. These feelings are not exclusive to just the well-known or more common orientations and sexual/romantic identities. Those moments of clarity and relief also happen to autochorissexuals and akio/lithromatnics and demis and all the other people who fall somewhere between ace/aro and allo.

Words are important. And so are labels. If you are someone who doesn’t care about labels; if you are somebody who is queer and you’ve never been too bothered about labelling the specifics, that’s fine. For the longest time I didn’t give a shit about labelling my sexual and romantic orientations either. But for some people it is really important, and ultimately, the only person who gets to decide whether a label is important or not is the person it belongs to.

Do they belong in the LGBT+ acronym?

Another concern people seem to raise a lot is that these terms don’t belong in the LGBT+ acronym, and those who don’t identify with them don’t belong in the queer community. Which is rather a sweeping statement to make about an entire community of largely misunderstood people, for one thing. The accusation has been made that grey-ace people such as demis, autochoris, akio etc. only want to be in the acronym so that they can feel like special snowflakes even though they are straight.

Firstly, this disregards and assumes that all grey-ace people are hetero, which is just as stupid as assuming that all gay or bi people are allosexual. Secondly, even if gray-ace people are hetero that does not take away from the fact that they are still invisible to the rest of society, that they are discriminated against, and that people are determined that they need to be ‘fixed’.

Now, I think intersectionality within the LGBT+ community is important, because the struggles we all face are different, and while we are all sexual, romantic or gender minorities, we cannot all be lumped together as though we’re all the same. (Which is why I greatly object to the use of the word ‘gay’ as a synonym for LGBT+, because they do not mean the same thing, and it contributes to the erasure of bi, pan, ace, aro trans, non-binary and basically everybody else who isn’t gay or lesbian).

The LGBT+ community also has a tendency to do just that - to value the rights of and the visibility of gay/lesbian people over everybody else, even if it means treading over the rest of us. Which is why diversity is something to be celebrated, and intersectionality is necessary - because the challenges that bi people face, while they share some similarities to gay folk, are not exactly the same, just as the challenges that trans and non-binary people face is different to those which ace and aro people face.

Really, there are several categories that could well have their own acronyms and communties because they’re so different, and because everybody can identify with labels from each one - homo and poly people/the queer spectrum, the asexual spectrum, the aromantic spectrum, and trans and non binary folk. Somebody, for example, can be a pansexual demisexual aromantic transgender person, for example, falling somewhere into each of those categories. Understanding how all of these work means thinking of them as separate spectrums (as demonstrated by Kinsey Scale).

To determine whether or not an identity should be included in the LGBT+ acronym, we need to determine what exactly the acronym is for. Why does it exist and what is its purpose? Is it to provide a letter to represent each sexual, romantic or gender minority? Is representation/visibility the goal? Because if that is the case, I think it’s extremely important to include everyone on the ace and aro spectrums. Or is the goal to provide a community for people who have been stripped of their rights by cis heterosexual people? Or both? Neither?

Ultimately, I don’t expect everybody, or even most people to know about all of these terms and fully comprehend them. There are numerous terms, all describing people who fit somewhere on several different scales, and I too have a lot left to learn. What I do expect is an open mind and acceptance.

I personally am happy for a simple ‘A’ in the acronym, as all of these sexualities fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum, which is really something entirely separate to which gender a person is attracted to. But I don’t speak for everybody on the ace spectrum, and this is really a discussion for those people who fall into the lesser-known spaces inbetween ace/aro and allo.

So I guess now down to the nitty gritty…

What exactly is autochoris??

Autochorissexualism is a term coined and described thus by Anthony Bogaert:"A disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies, or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein. Commonly found in asexual people; an analogous feeling may occur in aromantic people for romantic fantasies."

Anthony Bogaert has done considerable research into asexuality, and published several books and papers. His short paper/essay on autochorissexualism in particular can be found here.

But as my personal understanding of the term and myself have evolved, so has my definition of the label. Is autochorissexuality liking the idea of sex, but only at a distance and not having any desire to engage in it? Is it experiencing sexual attraction but having no desire to partake in the sex act? Is there a difference?

I suppose this all hinges really on how you define sexual attraction. Is it looking at somebody and wanting to have sex with them? Or is being turned on by somebody? Are they two different things? I would argue so, but then I don’t know that we’d ever be able to reach a final definition as our understandings of attraction and sex and ourselves evolve.

So autochorissexualism, as I identify with it, is a sub-section of asexuality, where a person who doesn’t feel the desire to have sex with people (sexual attraction) does get turned on by and/or otherwise enjoys porn, erotica, the idea of sex, and/or masturbation.

You might be autochoris if you identify as ace, but enjoy porn and self-loving, or if you’ve always been turned on by seeing or thinking about sex, but always picture your fantasies as detached from yourself. For example, instead of masturbating while imagining that hot guy you like having sex with you, you might masturbate while thinking about him having sex with somebody else. Or you might picture yourself and him like you would in a movie scene you observe, instead of imagining it actually happening to you.

So what exactly is akio/lith??

Akiosexuality/lithsexuality is described as: "An orientation in which one can feel a sexual attraction towards others and also enjoy sexual relationships in theory, but not needing that attraction to be reciprocated or be in a sexual relationship with the one the feelings are directed towards. Either that, or they may stop feeling the attraction once in a relationship or stop enjoying it." (adapted from here)

So akiosexual/lithsexual people experience sexual attraction, but do not desire for it to be reciprocated.

You might be akio/lithsexual if you tend to feel sexually attracted to fictional characters, or people who otherwise can’t reciprocate those feelings. Or you might be akio/lithsexual if you want to engage in a sex act with somebody, but when they show interest in you, you lose interest.

So what exactly is the difference between autochoris and akio/lith?

You want a short answer? Tough, there isn’t one! Again, this all depends on how you define attraction. If sexual attraction is a desire to engage in a sex act with someone, but akio/lithsexual people experience attraction yet don’t want to engage in a sex act, it seems like a contradiction. But then people are complex, as are sexualities.

In pure terminology, autochoris is enjoying sexual material/content (or feeling attraction, I suppose, depending on your definition) but not feeling the desire toparticipate, whereas akio/lith is experiencing attraction but not feeling the desire for reciprocation. So while akio/lith folks might be repulsed by reciprocation, they might be fairly indifferent to it too. They might feel attracted to somebody, want to engage with them, but when that person expresses their desire, the akio/lith person loses interest.

If you feel that one of these labels fits you, then wear it! Own it! And if you’re not sure, don’t worry - take your time to figure things out. If you still don’t know, don’t worry about it. Figuring out exactly what you’re feeling can be really tough sometimes.

But it’s also important to remember that these two words were originally defined for different orientations - autochoris was coined as a term to describe a newsexuality, whereas akio/lith was coined to describe a romantic orientation. And I suppose, as they are so painstakingly similar, you could argue that they are one another’s corollary sexual/romantic orientation, because sexual attraction works differently to romantic attraction - sex is an act, whereas romance usually involves a particularly kind of relationships; an ongoing thing. Falling in love is different to being horny, so something that may describe a sexuality might not be very applicable for a romantic orientation, and vise versa.

TL;DR?

There are a lot of people that identify with labels like autochoris or akio/lith that fall somewhere between the ace/aro and allo extremes. These are all important. These are valued. It’s confusing and we’re still trying to work it out ourselves. But if you identify with one of these terms or if you’re still confused - you’re important and you are valued too.

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